14
Dec

Defeated, But Not Out of the Running

Posted by WebCudgel | 12 Comments

Yeah, it’s a nice pun, but I wanted to make sure you knew that this has a somewhat positive outcome. After all, I did not complete the marathon yesterday. But before we get to that, let me go over the whole experience.

Amy and I spent the night at the Marriott @ Dallas Market Center as that would give us about an extra 30 minutes to sleep instead of driving all the way from our home. This was the same hotel that would be the “homebase” of the wedding party.

We set the alarms (more than one to cover ourselves) for 5 a.m. That would give us time to get ready, get a small breakfast, and get to the W hotel near the American Airlines Center to meetup for the wedding (our deadline was 7:05 a.m. if we wanted to be included).

We left the hotel at 6:15 a.m. and found a McDonald’s where we could hit the drive through. I say “we”, though I turned down getting anything myself (more about that later). So then we get onto I-35 northbound and the traffic is bumper-to-bumper. I think we ended up getting parked and to the W hotel by about 7:00 a.m. Closer than I like, but that’s just a peeve of mine.

It turns out that everything was running a bit longer than expected, but they had planned a cushion in the schedule anyways. I got to see several people from the Time Warner Cable Irving offices (Marilyn, Sylvia, Gerald, Mike and Rob) that I knew and worked with in the past before moving to the Flower Mound office. We put on our wedding “racing bibs” that helped us stick out from other runners.

Around 7:20 a.m., we cross in front of the starting line (on the side away from where the runners were already gathering) and get together in The Boardroom. It is here that 95% of the ceremony was performed (everything except the final declaration that they were now husband and wife and the big kiss). They really had some well-written vows that were touching and humorous.

At about 7:40 a.m, (keep in mind I’m guessing on the times as I only had my Garmin on my wrist and I wasn’t turning it on until just before the race), the non-runners moved over to a canopy that was only about 50 feet beyond the starting line where the ceremony would be finished. The runners hung around at the patio of The Boardroom until just before it started.

At about 7:55 a.m., we are moved up next to the starting line (just off the side so we could see the elites line up and the start of the marathon firsthand.

I must interject at this point. The race was setup to be set off in waves this year. Thus, we were to be sent down the race path between the first and second wave where our group could easily stay together and the camera crews could get some good shots (Channel 8 news covered the wedding directly). Thus, all of the running members of the wedding party would run ahead of the minister and the bride and groom would come in last.

However, there was miscommunication and so there were no waves… all of the runners were going.

So at about 8:05 a.m., we are sent along to just stay together as best we could and get to the canopy. No order, just get there. We managed to make it and the ceremony was completed. Bob and Carolyn then stripped off the wedding clothes (except Carolyn wore her veil the entire run and Bob wore his yellow bow tie, which matched his shoes). They left and the rest of the runners in the wedding party soon followed… including the minister who was also doing the marathon.

At this point, it’s all about me.

I proceed to run pacing myself as best I could. This was very difficult to do when about 80% of the runners were still behind me and 79.999% of them were faster than me. I had planned on tweeting my location whenever possible and when it would not slow me down (meaning I only did it when I was already taking a walking break).

The following is a summary of the tweets (note that the times shown are from Twitter and may be off):

  • 8:48 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 4.
    Pace: 11:00min/mile after 44 minutes.
  • 9:29 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 16
    (typo as I deleted the period instead of the 1 in my text template on my phone) Pace: 14:01m after 85 minutes which is not good at this point
  • 9:56 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 8
    Pace: 14:00min/mile after 112 minutes.
  • 10:10 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 9 at 2h4m.
    Pace: 13:07min/mile after 124 minutes (methinks the pace listed above may be due to some twitter delays)
  • 10:22 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 10.
    Pace: 13:08min/mile after 138 minutes.
  • 10:57 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 12.
    Pace: 14:05min/mile after 173 minutes; I believe I was starting to really slow down at this point.
  • 11:13 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 13.1 at 3h9m.
    Pace: 14:06min/mile after 189 minutes.
  • 11:45 am @webcudgel is at mile marker 15 with blisters.
    Pace: 14:11min/mile after 221 minutes.
  • 12:10 pm @webcudgel is at mile marker 16 and spent.
    Pace: 15:06min/mile after 246 minutes; I had hit my wall much earlier than I wanted about 2 miles back.
  • 12:28 pm @webcudgel Is bowing out at arnund mile 18.
    I had already reached the decision to quit and had called my parents who were not far away as they were planning on being at the finish line.
  • 12:33 pm @webcudgel is at mile marker 17.
    Pace: 15:14min/mile after 269 minutes.

It was heartbreaking to myself to have to make the call to quit, but I knew I was not finishing the race in 6.5 hours as I had to maintain an overall pace of 14:50. At the end, I’m just barely walking normal pace… I couldn’t even maintain a fast walk. I had blisters on both feet and my calves and flexors were on fire as if in a permanent cramp.

Though I wanted to go to the AAC for the post race party, I thought it best to meet back at the hotel for me to shower and change. My brother, Jeremy and his wife had been waiting with Amy back at the AAC. So the 6 of us went to the hotel and then went out for lunch at Pappasito’s. When we got back to the hotel, I got to say hello once again to Bob and Carolyn who were having their lunch at the hotel. After final well-wishes and goodbyes, I went upstairs and pretty much crashed.

So, here are the following list of mistakes I made that in one way or another contributed to my disappointing “Did Not Finish” result:

  • I did not stick to the training plan Bob had laid out for me to follow. I would have lost some weight and gained some speed so that today would have been a success (I constantly blame the overtime at work, but it really was me in the end).
  • I did not lose any weight during the whole training process. Though mentioned above, Bob had specifically recommended I lose about 5-8 pounds in the last two weeks before the event. I didn’t.
  • I did not eat breakfast. I look back on this event and the last half-marathon and realized both of those were poorer results than my original half-marathon in March (where I finished in 2h45m; my last half was 3h5m and yesterday was 3h9m). In both cases, I had not had anything to eat (whereas I had consumed a Clif bar and a banana on the morning of my first half-marathon).
  • I had not double-checked what I had packed for the race. So I was missing my pair of shorts leaving me without pockets for the run (as I felt it would be too warm later on for me to have a pullover jacket on; it turned out to be much colder at the halfway point than I was ready for).
  • I had made assumptions as usual about the correct gear to wear so I was in short-sleeve shirts and tights. I should have worn my long-sleeve shirt I had brought.

I have to say that not finishing leaves me with a VERY empty feeling. I had never entered an event and not finished (even though this was only my 6th event, it still burns). It will take me a while to get over this defeat. I’m pessimistic by nature and was already having doubts well before the event and then throughout it.

However, in all of this, I have the following as well:

  • I ran the furthest I have every travelled in a single day, single period at any point in my life. So yesterday was a personal best regardless of the incomplete race.
  • I got to participate in a wedding at the marathon, a very rare event and it involved a couple I really love and care about.
  • I got to wear my super-cool mohawk hat and got so many comments about it before and during the race (it could even be seen in the ESPN coverage of the wedding at the event on their website). One course-guide called out “best hat of the marathon ever”. Getting all the comments about it really did boost my spirits until the last few miles where I just smiled and walked on). Sometimes I would run around the outside of a turn where there were a lot of onlookers just so they could see the hat and we give each other thumbs up.
  • I never heard my name called out so many times with words of encouragement. I learned real quick why each runner’s name is listed above their race number on the bib. This also helped spur me on at times.
  • I have had an experience few people will ever have. Both because of the distance I ran and because of the defeat of quitting. Most don’t even bother trying.

Finally, this has been a hit to my ego (and yes, I do have one and I had been keeping it somewhat well fed the last year with other races). It’s gone off into a corner to hide for a while. I fully intend to run the Walt Disney World Marathon in January of 2011. This gives me 13 months to get ready (physically and mentally). The marathon is open 30 minutes longer than the White Rock (ending at 7 hours). I know I can do it if I do the following:

  • Lose more weight. Though a marathon training program will do that if properly followed, I need to lose some weight before the training begins… the months before I start my training in the summer should be put to this use.
  • As noted above, STICK WITH THE TRAINING PROGRAM. The longest I had run before yesterday was about 13.1 miles. That’s not exactly something that should be extended to twice the distance without at least pushing your body to something in between. The program would have done that.
  • Be better prepared on packing what I’ll need. Especially since we’ll have to fly to Orlando and may not have a chance for last minute purchases.
  • Eat a small breakfast that morning. No quibbling or being a “man” about skipping. I know it hurt my performance in the end.
  • Start feeding that ego a few little meals between now and the marathon.
  • Attend at least one event as a volunteer… now that I appreciate what they did for me, I need to return the favor. (Feel free to join me, I’ll post when I plan on doing it.)

Well, that’s all I have for now… I haven’t given up, but I’ve taken a beating and need to rest for a while. I’ll won’t be doing any more running until next year (sounds like a long time, but that’s really only a few weeks). Thanks for sticking through to the end of this… at least you weren’t having to wait for 4.5 hours for me to just quit. :)

Oh, one last thing, I thank my wife for all the encouragement she gave and for being there for me (even to chauffeur me around after I was completely unable to drive after the event yesterday and today). I thank my parents for coming to pick me up when I needed them (my wife was not familiar with Dallas streets and my brother and his wife were probably even less familiar). I thank my brother, Jeremy, and his wife, D’anna, for showing up to support me. I thank Bob and Carolyn for letting me be a part of a very important event in their lives. I thank all of the rest of you who left messages of encouragement on my phone, on twitter, and on facebook. Although I could only see what was sent to my phone while I was running, it was so nice to see those when I got back to the hotel.

You all have no idea how much it meant to me. Thank you.

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12 Responses to “Defeated, But Not Out of the Running”

  1. The Wife Says:

    You’re welcome, My Love! I’m very proud of you for what you did accomplish! At least you tried and pushed yourself to see what you could do! You will always be my champion! Love you!!

  2. Betty Says:

    Just to let you know I love you and I was proud of you yesterday. Yes, you dropped out, but sometimes it takes wisdom to know when it is time to do that. People can continue despite the pain and end up doing permanent damage to themselves. And they can be too proud to admit they need to stop.

    You also learned a few things about yourself and have admitted what you should have done (more training, breakfast, etc). It can be hard to admit that not meeting a goal can not be blamed on anyone or anything else.

    The distance you ran was definitely farther than I’ve ever run - or ever will. I don’t know anyone else in the family - on either side - who has done such a thing, so you hold the family record.

    Now that you know what it will take to meet that goal, just look things over, make your plans and start again, being faithful to the training. It is like your spiritual life — when you fall, just pick yourself up and start all over again, keeping in mind what you’ve learned.

    Love from Mom

  3. Jennifer Saldana Says:

    Hey Charles,

    You are a true tangible inspiration!!! Do what Mom said!!!! You can only learn from this and grow…….

    We love you and Amy…..

    The Saldaña’s

  4. Dad Says:

    Charles,

    I was extremely proud when you ran your first 5K, then the 1/2 Marathons. Your participation in the White Rock Marathon also gave me a chance to brag on my eldest son and tell anyone that would listen that my son was a participant in the White Rock Marathon.

    No matter whether you finished or not I was proud that you tried and also that you were able to complete more than 17 miles.

    The longest walk, not on purpose, I ever took was about 13 miles and it took me about 6-7 hours. and a week to recover, I was about 19 at the time.

    I am looking forward to the Disney World Marathon in 2011, just maybe we can have a family gathering to see you run.

    And No I am not going to run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!hehehehe

    Love from Dad

  5. Betty (not mom) Says:

    Charles!!

    I am so very sad that I did not do my part and keep up with the wedding and the race and all that goes into it. You are a wise soul already, and have gained new and unique wisdom. A million kudos to you for your efforts. I send you warm hugs and thoughts of healing, as you seek homeostasis.

    Smiles from the FM office,
    Betty

  6. The Wife Says:

    You have boldly attempted to do what you and others have never done before. It takes a strong and brave person, such as yourself, to attempt to do a 26.2 mile marathon!! 18 miles is such a tremendous accomplishment! I am very proud of you and agree with your parents! You were wise to listen to your body and stop when you needed to. It’s better to be wise than to be injured for a long time.

    You have learned from this experience. You are not a failure. You admitted defeat, but you have gotten back up and dusted yourself off and are ready to begin again. You have a chance to start fresh again.

    I saw this quote today and thought I’d share it with you:

    If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down. - Mary Pickford

    Hang in there…don’t give up! You kicked butt at this marathon! You’ve never run this far before and I’m so proud of how much you’ve been able to accomplish! I’m looking forward to the 2011 for the WDW marathon and will be there waiting for you at the finish line! :-D I love you so much!

  7. Bob Widmer Says:

    “I’m pessimistic by nature and was already having doubts…..”

    Get over it. You have what it takes, and like you said most people would not have tried to do what you have done. Don’t stop.

  8. Neil Ford Says:

    Awesome effort Charles, one you cannot in any way regard as a defeat. most folks would be hard pressed to walk 10 miles let alone run 17 miles.

    You’ve encouraged me to look beyond my growing belly and get some exercise, and you’ve clearly continue to inspire your family and friends - so don’t dare feel dejected! You rock! :)

  9. Mom Says:

    Hey, look at it this way. Instead of being remembered as the guy who didn’t finish, you can be remembered as the guy wearing the knit mohawk! Maybe that can be your running trademark — at least in cool weather!

  10. Valena Says:

    Charles,

    Stick with it! It’s something you enjoy and as long as you keep enjoying it that it what counts! I think all your friends and family can think back to 2 years ago what you may not have been able to do 2 miles. Your doing Great!

    Hugs! Valena

  11. Sue Mc Says:

    Charles,

    It sounds like you are going great guns! Keep trying and you will reach your goal.

    It makes me tired just reading about your trials as you ran 18 miles. I think I have done will to walk 1 mile.

    Keep looking toward your goal and you will get there.Sending you and Amy my love across the miles, Sue

  12. AndrewENZ Says:

    You had the courage to start and the courage to know when to pull out. Well done in my books.

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